Hello Mondays ~ Life is a Journey

Life is a Journey


Have you ever thought of yourself as a tour guide on this road we call life?  I have.  We come in contact with so many people in need of “directions.” When they ask for directions I feel it’s up to us to hand them the map that show’s them the way.

Life is a journey, it’s not a destination.  GPS is great, but part of the adventure is discovering all the places along the way that are off the beaten path, right?!  The places that only the locals know about!  The really cool secret places.  Like a local watering hole, hidden waterfalls, an underwater cave.  A special place that you probably passed by and didn’t even know it was there.

You don’t find these places on your gps.  You can only get there by knowing and listening to others who’ve been there before you.   You have to ask for these directions because they usually aren’t on a map or in a gps. If you knew the coordinates, then you could use a gps I guess.

Look, even with a GPS we all get lost because they take us such crazy routes sometimes.  And we trust them so much we have a generation that doesn’t even know how to read a map (I wonder if they know which direction North is?) If you’ve ever been Geo-cashing/treasure hunting you absolutely know what I’m talking about.  And we’ve all heard the words “re-calculating”.  Am I right?

I love road trips and traveling it’s always an adventure for me!  The excitement and anticipation of getting there is my favorite part.  Yes, I enjoy the destination once I arrive,  but it’s the trip, the whole, what awesome part comes next, and who am I going to meet along the way, that really makes the journey for me.

Our lives are a journey, so what awesome part is next?!


“Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to DANCE in the rain.”~Unknown

   10 Things To ENCOURAGE YOU (YES, YOU!)

1. Don’t be distracted from your dreams.

2. Life isn’t about being the BEST. (but I think YOU ARE!!!) It’s about being better than you were yesterday!

3. You are inspiring.

4. Be ready:  Amazing things are coming your way.

5. Appreciate who YOU are!

6. HOPE conquers FEAR.

7. Not feeling today?  That’s ok! You get a brand new day tomorrow and it can be GREAT!

8. YOU belong.

9. When you plant KINDNESS you harvest LOVE.

10. You make this world a better place!




Since I started this blog talking about journey’s it made me think of vacations.  Here’s a thought wouldn’t it be amazing to live a life that we wouldn’t need a vacation from?  A life that is so awesome, stress-free, perfect for you that every aspect of it is like being on vacation every moment of every day.  Is it possible? Am I crazy to think that it’s possible?  Maybe it’s retirement.

I asked, it’s not retirement.  Well, according to my resources of the people I asked say, it isn’t.  My sources, who wish to remain anonymous, said it’s just not going to a normal 9-5 job.  They just do “other things”.

I believe it’s possible!  I love where I work and the people I work with.  I like getting up and going to work everyday so I know that it’s possible to have a job that you love and that makes life pretty sweet.  I’m not bragging but I do enjoy what I do.  I know not everyone has that so it really makes me appreciate what I have all the more.

I also come home from my day job and I get to work with my husband and family with our business.  I am so fortunate to do what I love with the people I love most.  I’m thankful and I know what we have as a family is special. We all have full-time jobs outside of our business so we work long hours which can be stressful but we have each other to keep us motivated.

I’m saying I believe it’s possible to have the kind of life that is so amazing that we wouldn’t need a vacation from it.   I know there are some people that are struggling with everything in their life,  I’m not trying to down play that struggle at all, I know it’s real and it’s hard, a vacation from it would be a blessing.  The thing about vacations though, is we have to come back from them eventually.

Let’s think about some small changes we could make in our daily lives that can make it a stress-free zone.  I work with an awesome woman at work and we play Pandora in our office. We found a music channel that plays “beach music”.

If you’ve ever had a massage it sounds like the music they play softly in the background.  It’s very relaxing and if we are having a  hectic day at work we  put it on that station and it just relaxes us. It’s very soothing.  Maybe you could give that a try.  Or you could put a favorite “vacation” photo on your desk.  Simple reminders of a favorite time can bring stress relief and help you to finish your day strong.

You know you best.  Take the time you need each day to de-stress, I have heard that they have adult coloring books to de-stress at the end of particularly hard day.  know that you’re awesome and loved beyond measure!  This journey that we are on can be rough but we can make it as stress-free as possible along the way.


ShellyContact me at shelly@mel.paulcarlwebdev.com and let me know what you think of this week’s blog.  Give me your thought’s and ideas about ways you de-stress.  I value your input.  Have an amazing day and an incredible week.  Always know that you are awesome and loved beyond measure! All my best,  Shelly



Hello Monday’s ~ Are you Happy with who You Are?

I Enjoying lifejust asked myself this question.  Am I happy with who I am? My answer, is a resounding YES!  Looking deep within myself, I am content with where I am at this time in my life.  Of course, there are always things that could be different or better I guess.  I’m not focused on them, I’m focused on where I’m at right now, at this point and I’m at peace and am loving my life.

I know it’s a profound question to ask yourself.  The hardest part I think is to give an honest answer.  Yes, I tend to be the glass is always “half-full” person.  I don’t focus on the negatives this life throws at me.  Instead, I get my bat out, step up to the plate and swing away!  I might “strike out” or I might just get a “home-run!”  I’ll never know unless I go for it RIGHT?!

We live in a world where there is a lot going on.  There’s senseless killings, floods, famine, hurricanes and drought….basically a lot of sadness and turmoil.  You open a newspaper or turn on the news and there’s a whole lot of negative if that’s all you want to see.  I DON’T!


So, I said it.  I don’t want to see all the negative.  I do see it, it’s all around us.  You would have to be oblivious not to see it.  However, I also see the drive to survive.  I’ve watched men and women willing to sacrifice themselves to HELP one another.  I’ve seen them pool together in the darkest of times.  They use their resources and become knitted together in the only way you can when tragedy strikes. I don’t know about you but I think it’s the most beautiful thing about the human heart. Also the will and strength to fight and NOT GIVE UP!!

I’ve also seen when terrible things happen, men and women are filled with the determination to be courageous and brave.  It opens us up to be more than we thought we were capable of.  Not only can you be happy with who you are,  you can change how you see yourself and those around you!


“Success isn’t fame, fortune or power.  It’s waking up in the morning and being so excited to start the day.  Success is joy, freedom and LOVE!” ~ Shelly Whyland


  1. Define yourself by YOUR terms.
  2. It’s ok to LOVE yourself.
  3. Smile, it’s contagious, pass it on.
  4. Our power to accomplish anything comes from within.  All you need to do is tap into it!
  5. Accept who you are.  I think you are magnificent.
  6. Believe – all things are possible!
  7. Who defines what you will do with your life?  YOU DO!
  9. Don’t be afraid to SUCCEED!
  10. Your dreams are yours.  Don’t let them go or let anyone take them from you.

I sit here and think about how to inspire, encourage and love people.  Just take a few minutes and think about who you are.  You truly are amazing not just because I say you are but because YOU ARE.  Sometimes we believe the lies that people tell us that we are.  Don’t do it!  You are here for a reason.  And that reason can only be done by you!  This is the truth, maybe you are thinking NOT ME and I am saying YES, YOU!


Success isn’t fame, fortune or power.  It might be for some people but me.  For me, success is waking up in the morning being so excited to start the day!  Success is joy, freedom, love and who or how can I share it with the people I come in contact with TODAY?

I know there are deep hurts and sadness in people.  I’m not belittling anyone’s feelings.  I hope if you sat down for a few minutes you could find something within yourself that you are happy with.

So, let’s go back to the beginning of this post. Now, ask yourself…….are you happy with who you are?  Go ahead take some time and dig deep and give an honest answer to yourself.Shelly

Hi it’s me Shelly, I would love to hear the answer.  If the answer is a YES or NO, I’d like to know why you feel that way.  Please let me if this post encouraged you.  Did you take the time to think about it?  Please feel free to contact me at shelly@mel.paulcarlwebdev.com.  I really would like to know what you think. Did you find this post worthwhile?  Feel free to leave a comment.  Like it and Share it with your friends.  I’m always looking for positive quotes to share in the Hello Monday’s blog.  Have a beautiful week and know that I’m thinking of you!  Be AWESOME.