Hello Monday’s ~ A Life of Purpose

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When I wake up everyday before my feet hit the floor I thank God for all He has done for me.  My purpose in life is to love and encourage anyone who I happen to be with on any given day.  The truth is, sometimes I fail at my purpose.

For me, my purpose isn’t my “job” although I love my job and all the people I work with. I couldn’t find another place to work that would be better than where I am right now.  Of course my goal, is to eventually work only for Melody Creek.

My purpose isn’t my family or close friends either.  Although I love and cherish each and every one of them.  I am the person that I am because they cheer me on and encourage me to live MY LIFE OF PURPOSE.  I hope you are blessed and surrounded by people who bring out the best in you and encourage you to be WHO YOU ARE.

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Living a life of purpose isn’t just a one day at a time thing.  I want to be a woman of purpose.  What this means to me is that I am determined to achieve something with my life.  So, it’s going to take the span of my life to achieve it!

When I was 8 years old I wanted to see people happy.  Not make them happy but to see them be happy.  In November 1971, a song was released and it was used for a Coca-Cola commercial.  The name of the song is “I’d Like to Teach the World to Sing.”

This song became my theme song.  Actually the chorus/2nd verse says this:   I’d like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony, I’d like to hold it in my arms and keep it company.  Those lyrics spoke to me then and they still speak to me today.

I’ve always loved music.  Those lyrics with the catchy melody was my purpose in life.  I have taught people to sing…….I was a music teacher and a private music instructor for over 25 years.  I still play and sing all the time.  I feel strongly that I am fulfilling my purpose in life everyday!

The second half of that song means love and encouragement to me.  I have always seen the incredible potential in the lives of people I meet.  I want them to see themselves the way I know them to be.  It’s more than just seeing the good in people it’s seeing their value and making sure they know that they matter and are priceless.

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10  THINGS TO ENCOURAGE YOU(YES, YOU!)

  1. I get happy when I hear your laugh.
  2. You are so loved!
  3. We all go through some hard and awful things.  Just know YOU ARE NOT ALONE…….ever.
  4. Don’t worry about tomorrow it will take care of itself.
  5. Helping others will make you feel like you are a SUPERHERO.
  6. I know this world seems like it’s a hurricane, so you be the calm in the storm!
  7. Thank you for all you do for me, it matters and I appreciate it so much.
  8. There’s nothing wrong with wanting it all and then GETTING IT!
  9. You are capable of INCREDIBLE things.
  10. Don’t change….Be yourself.  People will love the real YOU!

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To live a life of purpose I think you have to define what that means to you.  There’s no wrong answer it comes from inside you.  It’s what drives you and gains momentum with everything you do.  It becomes part of who you are.  It’s not a goal you can reach because it’s always evolving.  It’s personal, no one else can reach it, only you.

Do you have a purpose for your life?  I say YES you do!  Everyday you do something.  You go to work, school or maybe you take care of your children.  Whatever you do each day be the best you can be….that’s your purpose.  We all have a purpose.

For me a song ignited my purpose.  45 years ago I heard a song that didn’t change my life, I was already who I am but it helped me to laser focus on what I wanted to do with my life.  Narrowed down I wanted to teach the world to sing, to take care of the people in it, to bring them JOY and let them know of their worth.

I know that seems to be impossible but I believe all things are possible.  When you do what you know you are meant to , there’s nothing that can STOP you.  When things try you just plow through them and keep going.  Believe me I’ve had many things that I’ve had to plow through.  Those things have only succeeded in making me stronger!

I’ve been told quite a few times that I have the “tenacity of a bulldog.” I am tenacious.  I won’t back down.  I am loyal and I will defend anyone who is treated unfairly or being bullied.

I know all these things that I’ve shared in this blog are only a sliver of who I am.  Why? I don’t want to stay here, I want MORE.  This life I’ve been given is an adventure that I’m always exploring. Anything can happen but I have my purpose and I will do my best to fulfill it.

I encourage you to sit down, take some time to define your purpose for your life.  It will help you to know how incredible you are. Remember it is a process.  This is about you and no one else.  Ask yourself, “What is my life purpose?” Write it down.  It will challenge you and help you to define what it means to you.

Did this post spark something in you? I would love to hear about it.  All comments are welcome.  May this week bring you great JOY and always know you are loved.  Feel free to contact me at shelly@mel.paulcarlwebdev.com.  You are amazing!  All my best,  Shelly

 

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Hello Monday’s ~ Be Bold and Courageous!

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I was sitting in Panera writing and there was this cute older couple to my right in the corner.  When I say older I’m almost 54 so they are my elders.  I’m not saying they are old, just want to clarify.  The man was talking rather loudly and he was animated, using his hands gesturing and really intent.  The woman reached across the table took his hands and said, “Let’s be BOLD and COURAGEOUS!”  He laughed and almost shouted, “Let’s DO IT!”

YES! I thought to myself and ME TOO!  Of course I had no idea what they were talking about.  I just got caught up in their conversation from across the room.  They drew me in with the words bold, courageous and let’s do it!  I couldn’t help but agree.

I get excited when I hear people excited about something.  I didn’t have a clue what they were excited about it could have been light fixtures for all I know.  Their excitement was contageous and I was IN no matter what it was.

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Have you ever been drawn into someone else’s excitement?  Did it ignite a fire in you?  Did it spur you into action?  YES, for me on all counts.

These sweet folks at Panera had no idea that they encouraged me just be being in the same place at the same time.  They gained my attention and curiosity which lead to my excitement.

When they left the gentleman stood up, she waited, he pulled out her chair and helped her put her coat on.  He put her hand in the crook of his arm and she winked at me as they walked out.

They had absolutely charmed me.  I wanted to follow them and tell them but I didn’t.  I wasn’t afraid I just didn’t want to break the moment.  I watched them walk to their car.  He opened her door and waited for her to get settled inside.  He shut the door, walked around to the driver’s side and drove away.  It was a magical and romantic moment.  I was so encouraged by it.

My wonderful husband John does these beautiful gestures for me and I love it.  It reminds me that I’m loved, treasured and cherised.  It’s him putting his love for me into action.  Isn’t that what love is?  Not just saying “I love you” but putting it into action so you know you are loved.

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10 THINGS TO ENCOURAGE YOU (YES, YOU!)

  1.  YOU make this world a better place.
  2.  You can be happy!
  3.  There’s no one else who could ever take your place.
  4.  The word “can’t” doesn’t exist in your vocabulary!
  5.  When you think you are at your wits end, take a breath it will be OK.
  6.  You are BRILLIANT!
  7.  What would I do without YOU?
  8.  You are never alone.
  9.  You were born to be GREAT.  It’s a process and it takes time. You will get there.
  10.  Always remember, you are a super star!

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I thouroughly loved those precious minutes at Panera.  Whenever I think of them now I will remember the words: bold, courageous and let’s do it.  When I hear those words I will think of them and their devotion to each other.  I will also remember that wink like we were sharing a special secret.

Their excitement was contagious but what really drew me to them in the first place was their absolute adoration for each other.  I had no doubt that they were a unit and they were still very much in love. I know I made a lot of assumptions but this is my story so I’m going with them being 75ish, married over 50 plus years and still crazy for each other.

John and I have been married for thirty-one years and I hope we can spark excitement in others when we are older.  To give the younger generation something to write and talk about.  To be an example of a life long love.  A legacy to our children, grandchildren and greatgrandchildren.  I want them to say that we loved whole heartedly.  That we were devoted to each other.

I know I’m “old-fashioned.”  My mother used to call me an old soul, that I should have been born in an earlier time.  The problem with that is I would have to give up indoor plumbing and modern technology.  I appreciate and am grateful for all that I have in this century.

I believe there are several things we can take from this special moment:

  • Be BOLD and COURAGEOUS – be brave to take risks at any age
  • Let’s do it! – Go for it what’s the worse that could happen?
  • Always love, treasure and cherish all the people that matter most to you.  Don’t let an opportunity go by that you don’t tell them how wonderful they are and what they mean to you.

I know this, I was sitting by myself in Panera and these two sweet people inspired me and had no idea that they had done it.  I am thankful for the chance encounter and to have witnessed such unconditional love in action.

I hope you found this blog post touching, exciting and encouraging.  I appreciate you and your comments.  Let me know what you think!  I wish you all the best and look forward to hearing from you.  Have an amazing day and always know you are loved. Take Care, Shelly

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Hello Monday’s ~ Resolutions, Dreams or Goals

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Resolutions, Dreams or Goals

happy-new-year-2013_mkmpzhdo_lI wonder if you’re like me or should I say like I used to be up to this year.  Maybe you set up resolutions and didn’t achieve them or gave up a month or two into the new year.  I’m waving both hands here because that’s what I would do too.  My excuses would be I’ll start again when I have more time, it’s just too much for me I can’t do it.  I had all the excuses in the book or I’d just quit because I lost interest.

When I’d make my “resolution” for the new year I would make them as mental notes.  I think that was mistake number 1!  Then I would get easily distracted and it was easy to lose track of it in my head.  Also, everyday life could delay and distract me from what I had resolved to do.

As 2016 was coming to an end, I decided I’m not going to make resolutions anymore especially as a “mental note.” I took time to really sit down and think about my dreams (not when asleep) and how could they become realities.  This year I’m setting down in writing my GOALS!  I think by writing them down and putting them in plain sight and purposeful places, I believe reaching these goals will not only be achievable they will be accomplished.

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img_3287Do you start every year with resolutions or ideas of things you want to accomplish during the course of the year?  I would really love to hear if you are like me and have missed the mark or you complete all your resolutions.

In December, I decided that I want things to be different in my life.  I feel I’m fairly organized, optimistic and capable of doing anything I set my mind to.  The fact of the matter is my life is so “busy”(just like everyone else) that there’s too much on my mind that I can’t remember what I’m supposed to do.

If you want things to change then you have to be willing to do something different.  I’ve decided 2017 is my year!  This year I want to DREAM BIG, set and achieve goals to make those dreams come true.  I wrote down personal and business goals and I’m going to break them down into 90 day tasks to make them happen.  Yes, I know it sounds doable but my dreams are huge and pretty much scary.  At this point the scarier the better because on December 31, 2017 I want to have quite a few goals surpassed not just reached.

I feel more confident that this is my time to make the change and not fall into the traps of my past.  I’ve shut the door and I’m not looking back.  I want to encourage you to GO FOR IT!  Write down your dreams, make sure they’re a little scary and break down the steps you need to take to achieve it within 90 days.  Then go for the next one.  By the end of the year you will have accomplished at the very least 4 things that you wanted to see achieved.  I dont’ know about you but that’s EXCITING!

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10 Things to ENCOURAGE YOU (YES, YOU!)

  1. Let go of what you cannot change.
  2. Only you can make you HAPPY!
  3. Breathe in strength and release your fears.
  4. If you believe you can, then you will.
  5. Choose to be UNSTOPPABLE!
  6. SHINE today.
  7. I love how persistant YOU are.
  8. You ARE good enough.
  9. Take a minute to stop and look around you, YOU can make a difference.
  10. Your life is meant to be LIVED!

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I want you to know that it’s out of love that I spend time encouraging and building up others.  I want to help with the things that I’m going through and what I’ve broken through.  I’ve really struggled with resolutions in the past and I’ve felt less of myself because I didn’t finish.  There is hope for us all!

I know goal-setting can be a really scary step to take.  I kept asking myself will I fail?  Possibly, but at least I’m going to go for it. Bottom line is these are your dreams that you want to see happen!  What are you willing to do for it to come true?  Step by step goals that are broken down into smaller steps will help you to see that you are taking ground and moving forward.  This will make you more confident as you mark off each step. Yes, you might not reach your goals within 90 days, so WHAT?! Keep going, don’t give up just break your steps to smaller tasks until you reach them.

I’m so excited to see what 2017 will bring!  Just writing this blog is one step to mark off my list, then posting it will be another.  If you’ve ever seen the movie “What About Bob” then what we’re doing is taking “baby steps” and with each step we take we will move forward.  Every step that is marked off will bring hope and fill us with a sense of accomplishment.  I believe it is true so I will keep going from step to step until my dream is REAL.

Ralph Waldo Emerson has some really amazing quotes but there are two that are driving my greatness forward right now.

  • “Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm”
  • “Always do what you are afraid to do”

There are so many of his quotes that I could choose but these are the two that I am putting everywhere in my office here and at work.  On my bathroom mirror and in my car.  I am also putting my dreams/goals list in all of these places so I can mark off when I complete each task.

I hope you find this blog post helpful and useful.  I really would like to hear how you set up your resolutions, dreams or goals for this year.  Even though they might be scary that’s good according to the amazing Ralph Waldo Emerson.  Happy New Year!

I’m Shelly and I love helping those I come in contact with.  Please leave comments and share this post with those that you know and might find it helpful.  I really appreciate feedback.  Have an INCREDIBLE day and may the New Year bring you new beginnings that EXCITE you.

Hello Mondays ~ Life is a Journey

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Life is a Journey

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Have you ever thought of yourself as a tour guide on this road we call life?  I have.  We come in contact with so many people in need of “directions.” When they ask for directions I feel it’s up to us to hand them the map that show’s them the way.

Life is a journey, it’s not a destination.  GPS is great, but part of the adventure is discovering all the places along the way that are off the beaten path, right?!  The places that only the locals know about!  The really cool secret places.  Like a local watering hole, hidden waterfalls, an underwater cave.  A special place that you probably passed by and didn’t even know it was there.

You don’t find these places on your gps.  You can only get there by knowing and listening to others who’ve been there before you.   You have to ask for these directions because they usually aren’t on a map or in a gps. If you knew the coordinates, then you could use a gps I guess.

Look, even with a GPS we all get lost because they take us such crazy routes sometimes.  And we trust them so much we have a generation that doesn’t even know how to read a map (I wonder if they know which direction North is?) If you’ve ever been Geo-cashing/treasure hunting you absolutely know what I’m talking about.  And we’ve all heard the words “re-calculating”.  Am I right?

I love road trips and traveling it’s always an adventure for me!  The excitement and anticipation of getting there is my favorite part.  Yes, I enjoy the destination once I arrive,  but it’s the trip, the whole, what awesome part comes next, and who am I going to meet along the way, that really makes the journey for me.

Our lives are a journey, so what awesome part is next?!

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“Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to DANCE in the rain.”~Unknown

   10 Things To ENCOURAGE YOU (YES, YOU!)

1. Don’t be distracted from your dreams.

2. Life isn’t about being the BEST. (but I think YOU ARE!!!) It’s about being better than you were yesterday!

3. You are inspiring.

4. Be ready:  Amazing things are coming your way.

5. Appreciate who YOU are!

6. HOPE conquers FEAR.

7. Not feeling today?  That’s ok! You get a brand new day tomorrow and it can be GREAT!

8. YOU belong.

9. When you plant KINDNESS you harvest LOVE.

10. You make this world a better place!

 

 

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Since I started this blog talking about journey’s it made me think of vacations.  Here’s a thought wouldn’t it be amazing to live a life that we wouldn’t need a vacation from?  A life that is so awesome, stress-free, perfect for you that every aspect of it is like being on vacation every moment of every day.  Is it possible? Am I crazy to think that it’s possible?  Maybe it’s retirement.

I asked, it’s not retirement.  Well, according to my resources of the people I asked say, it isn’t.  My sources, who wish to remain anonymous, said it’s just not going to a normal 9-5 job.  They just do “other things”.

I believe it’s possible!  I love where I work and the people I work with.  I like getting up and going to work everyday so I know that it’s possible to have a job that you love and that makes life pretty sweet.  I’m not bragging but I do enjoy what I do.  I know not everyone has that so it really makes me appreciate what I have all the more.

I also come home from my day job and I get to work with my husband and family with our business.  I am so fortunate to do what I love with the people I love most.  I’m thankful and I know what we have as a family is special. We all have full-time jobs outside of our business so we work long hours which can be stressful but we have each other to keep us motivated.

I’m saying I believe it’s possible to have the kind of life that is so amazing that we wouldn’t need a vacation from it.   I know there are some people that are struggling with everything in their life,  I’m not trying to down play that struggle at all, I know it’s real and it’s hard, a vacation from it would be a blessing.  The thing about vacations though, is we have to come back from them eventually.

Let’s think about some small changes we could make in our daily lives that can make it a stress-free zone.  I work with an awesome woman at work and we play Pandora in our office. We found a music channel that plays “beach music”.

If you’ve ever had a massage it sounds like the music they play softly in the background.  It’s very relaxing and if we are having a  hectic day at work we  put it on that station and it just relaxes us. It’s very soothing.  Maybe you could give that a try.  Or you could put a favorite “vacation” photo on your desk.  Simple reminders of a favorite time can bring stress relief and help you to finish your day strong.

You know you best.  Take the time you need each day to de-stress, I have heard that they have adult coloring books to de-stress at the end of particularly hard day.  know that you’re awesome and loved beyond measure!  This journey that we are on can be rough but we can make it as stress-free as possible along the way.

 

ShellyContact me at shelly@mel.paulcarlwebdev.com and let me know what you think of this week’s blog.  Give me your thought’s and ideas about ways you de-stress.  I value your input.  Have an amazing day and an incredible week.  Always know that you are awesome and loved beyond measure! All my best,  Shelly

 

 

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Hello Monday’s ~ Are you Happy with who You Are?

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I Enjoying lifejust asked myself this question.  Am I happy with who I am? My answer, is a resounding YES!  Looking deep within myself, I am content with where I am at this time in my life.  Of course, there are always things that could be different or better I guess.  I’m not focused on them, I’m focused on where I’m at right now, at this point and I’m at peace and am loving my life.

I know it’s a profound question to ask yourself.  The hardest part I think is to give an honest answer.  Yes, I tend to be the glass is always “half-full” person.  I don’t focus on the negatives this life throws at me.  Instead, I get my bat out, step up to the plate and swing away!  I might “strike out” or I might just get a “home-run!”  I’ll never know unless I go for it RIGHT?!

We live in a world where there is a lot going on.  There’s senseless killings, floods, famine, hurricanes and drought….basically a lot of sadness and turmoil.  You open a newspaper or turn on the news and there’s a whole lot of negative if that’s all you want to see.  I DON’T!

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So, I said it.  I don’t want to see all the negative.  I do see it, it’s all around us.  You would have to be oblivious not to see it.  However, I also see the drive to survive.  I’ve watched men and women willing to sacrifice themselves to HELP one another.  I’ve seen them pool together in the darkest of times.  They use their resources and become knitted together in the only way you can when tragedy strikes. I don’t know about you but I think it’s the most beautiful thing about the human heart. Also the will and strength to fight and NOT GIVE UP!!

I’ve also seen when terrible things happen, men and women are filled with the determination to be courageous and brave.  It opens us up to be more than we thought we were capable of.  Not only can you be happy with who you are,  you can change how you see yourself and those around you!

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“Success isn’t fame, fortune or power.  It’s waking up in the morning and being so excited to start the day.  Success is joy, freedom and LOVE!” ~ Shelly Whyland

10 ENCOURAGING THOUGHTS FOR YOU (YES, YOU!)

  1. Define yourself by YOUR terms.
  2. It’s ok to LOVE yourself.
  3. Smile, it’s contagious, pass it on.
  4. Our power to accomplish anything comes from within.  All you need to do is tap into it!
  5. Accept who you are.  I think you are magnificent.
  6. Believe – all things are possible!
  7. Who defines what you will do with your life?  YOU DO!
  8. GET UP…..GO……BE YOURSELF.
  9. Don’t be afraid to SUCCEED!
  10. Your dreams are yours.  Don’t let them go or let anyone take them from you.

I sit here and think about how to inspire, encourage and love people.  Just take a few minutes and think about who you are.  You truly are amazing not just because I say you are but because YOU ARE.  Sometimes we believe the lies that people tell us that we are.  Don’t do it!  You are here for a reason.  And that reason can only be done by you!  This is the truth, maybe you are thinking NOT ME and I am saying YES, YOU!

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Success isn’t fame, fortune or power.  It might be for some people but me.  For me, success is waking up in the morning being so excited to start the day!  Success is joy, freedom, love and who or how can I share it with the people I come in contact with TODAY?

I know there are deep hurts and sadness in people.  I’m not belittling anyone’s feelings.  I hope if you sat down for a few minutes you could find something within yourself that you are happy with.

So, let’s go back to the beginning of this post. Now, ask yourself…….are you happy with who you are?  Go ahead take some time and dig deep and give an honest answer to yourself.Shelly

Hi it’s me Shelly, I would love to hear the answer.  If the answer is a YES or NO, I’d like to know why you feel that way.  Please let me if this post encouraged you.  Did you take the time to think about it?  Please feel free to contact me at shelly@mel.paulcarlwebdev.com.  I really would like to know what you think. Did you find this post worthwhile?  Feel free to leave a comment.  Like it and Share it with your friends.  I’m always looking for positive quotes to share in the Hello Monday’s blog.  Have a beautiful week and know that I’m thinking of you!  Be AWESOME.

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Hello Monday’s: How to Make Someone’s Day

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Have you ever seen a family member, friend, colleague or a perfect stranger having a bad day?  I have and when that happens, my first instinct is………how can I make their day?

I want to encourage them and make them smile.  I want to make sure they know they are valuable to many people.  My goal everyday is to let everyone around me know they matter and they are loved.

Today, I want to show you that it can be fairly easy to make someone’s day.

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The truth is I’m an optimistic person and I truly care about people.  I physically feel the pain of others if they are hurting.  I feel it in my stomach when they cry or are in physical or emotional pain.  It’s more than empathy and compassion.  It’s a strong feeling of wanting to help those in need.

This is something that I have felt even as a small child.  If you are stuggling I want to make sure you’re ok.  I am overwhelmed with concern for people who are upset, trying to handle their situation and felling like they have no one who cares.

Here’s my little bit of wisdom…..we can’t fix it.  We can’t take away the pain or suffering that someone else is going through.  We can hold their hand, give them a hug and LISTEN.  Let them talk and no matter how much you want to say THE RIGHT thing just LISTEN. Many times my words just make things worse which is the exact opposite of what my goal is.  I call this, “foot in mouth” syndrome.  So BREATHE.  Let them vent…….be with them.  Ultimately, this comforts them and they know someone is there and that person cares.

It’s simple really, you let them talk and you LISTEN.  By you being there, you are bringing them what they need at that moment.  They know that they are not alone and in that instant that is what helps.  You don’t realize how just being there with them helps.

To make someone’s day:

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  • Listen
  • Send a “hang in there” or “I’m thinking of you” text
  • Write a note and send it in the mail.  This is something that requires your time.  There is something about getting a card or letter in the mail.  It’s living proof that someone loves you.  They care enough to take the time to write and send you a note to tell you how much you are loved and thought of!
  • Be creative – bring them a meal, send flowers, take the time to call and talk to them
  • Do something that you would love done for you

10 AMAZING THINGS ABOUT YOU, YES YOU!

  1. You are AWE-inspiring.
  2. You can reach the stars if that’s your goal.
  3. Don’t compare yourself to other people – – – let them compare themselves to YOU!
  4. Obstacles will come so be prepared to “hurdle them”.
  5. You are powerful.
  6. Don’t give up – – – you’re so close to what you have been working so hard for!
  7. You are exquisite.
  8. Nothing can stop you.
  9. Be open to change….it’s hard but worth it!
  10. Know your value — YOU ARE PRICELESS!

I know that reading these things you might be saying to yourself, that’s not me.  These are all truths about you.  You may have a hard time seeing these things about yourself but they are all true.  Read them over and over until you believe them and can say to yourself YES this is me!

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I know that we are all busy and we have lives.  There are people all around us that are hurting, depressed, have no hope, and they just need someone to “see” them!  When we take the time to look around, there’s no doubt we will see those who need us.  Are we actually willing to stop what we are doing to do something for those in need?  In that moment it could be life changing for that person but more importantly it could change us as well.
It doesn’t have to take a lot of your time.  Just think, if all of us stopped for a few minutes and looked around with the sole purpose to see someone in need, then did something about it…..what would our world look like?  Every small act of kindness will make HUGE impact. Would you be willing to put yourself out there?

My challenge for myself is to take the time to be available.  It will not only make someone’s day, it always makes mine too!  Will you join me in this challenge?

Shelly

Did this post make you think about those you know or don’t know but you’ve seen?  Maybe this is how you live all the time.  I would really like to know what you think of this post.  Please leave me your comments and feel free to share this post with your family and friends!  I hope this week brings you great joy!  Contact me at shelly@mel.paulcarlwebdev.com.  I look forward to hearing from you.  All my best,  Shelly XOXO

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Hello Monday’s – Point of View

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img_2781.jpgLife from the mountaintops is pretty impressive compared to seeing it from the valley.  When I started writing this post, we were in the Catskills and the view was spectacular, you could see far and wide.  Not that being in the valley the view isn’t beautiful as well.  Being on ground level looking up is very different than being on top looking out. These are two incredible perspectives, yet vastly different.

In my opinion, we need both views to appreciate the view from the top.  I have found that in my life, I appreciate the amazing mountaintops all the more, because I have walked and or climbed through the valley to reach the top of the mountain.

Footpath in green forest. Early springtime forest at sunset.

Hiking

I’m not a mountain climber technically; I don’t use any special equipment or anything like that.  I like to hike and be outdoors.  So, I follow trails that are already broken by others that have gone before me.  Sometimes that leads to mountaintops and I love the view from there.  I don’t like heights very much so looking down as I’m going up, or even once I’ve gotten to the top, can be scary.  I keep my focus on the prize and once I’m there I’m glad I reached the top.  Now of course, going back down isn’t much fun, especially for me as I’m blind in one eye and my depth perception is way off.  I’m sure I freak out the people I’m with, because I just don’t see that well and I miss my step a lot or take these huge steps, because it’s what looks right to me.

Perception has to do with how we see ourselves, others and everything around us.  Perspective depends on what we see and how we relate to it.  It all comes down to “point of view” doesn’t it?

ENCOURAGEMENT

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Question Marks Confusion And Uncertainty

I don’t know if you’re like me, but I hate to be wrong.  I really don’t like messing up!  I make a lot of mistakes when it comes to words.  My brain sometimes processes faster than the words that are coming out of my mouth, so, I just either say the wrong word or I can’t get the right word out.  This can be extremely frustrating, because I either have people laughing at me or looking at me like I’ve completely lost it.  Admittedly, sometimes I have, the words are there, but I really struggle to get them out.

I want to be encouraging and have a word of encouragement on my lips all the time.  That can be so difficult for me at times.  My heart is in the right place, but the words just aren’t there or I can’t express them the right way!  When that happens I feel so inadequate and I should just not say anything, because I know that I’m just going to mess up and people are going to laugh at me and/or think I’m stupid.  This is how I feel about myself when I can’t get my words to come out the way I planned.  Not that I need to be perfect, although I can be a perfectionist sometimes.  Maybe it’s that I don’t like being laughed at or feeling stupid.  I’m a literal person and I’ve been told that I have no “sense of humor” and I take things “too seriously”.  The bottom line is I should lighten up and not be so hard on myself!

I shouldn’t take it personally, because I know that it comes down to “point of view”.  I really can’t help the “brain fog”, it’s just something that happens, but I fight through it and keep going.  We all go through things that are hard to fight through and keep going.  I don’t mean to downplay anything that you might be going through I just hope you surround yourself with people that pick you up when you are down and cheer you on!

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10 THINGS TO ENCOURAGE YOU (YES, YOU)

  1. You ARE amazing.
  2. Today will never come again, so encourage someone!
  3. You CAN be brave.
  4. Take the time to stop and care for those in need around you.
  5. Let your words heal, and not wound.
  6. Step away from those who do not encourage you.
  7. Always know how valuable and uniquely beautiful you are.
  8. Make today the BEST day ever!
  9. Don’t compromise what you BELIEVE in just because someone thinks it’s ridiculous.
  10. Take a RISK it’s worth giving it ALL you have.

LOVE

When you are going through difficult times and it’s hard to put things in perspective, take a breath and be still.  By taking some time to breathe, you just might discover a sense of peace.  We all go through hard stuff.  Maybe it has to do with finances, relationships, employment or health issues. Life happens and facing what gets thrown at us head on can be daunting.  

I have an amazing husband, family and very close friends that are my “go to” people.  They have been with me through some of the most difficult life challenges ever.  They pick me up when I am down.  Because I know they love me, I can face anything.  I can call on them anytime of the day or night and they will be there for me.

My hope for you is that you have people like this in your life and that they love you beyond measure!  You are precious and what you go through matters to those around you.  Whether you think people care or not, I know that they do. People don’t always know how to express themselves when their loved ones are going through horrible and awful things. Be patient they too are going through this with you and are concerned and really want to help.

If you found this uplifting and encouraging let me know.  Please contact me, with any comments.  I really appreciate and welcome feedback and those comments.  If you have an idea for a topic blog post send them to me at shelly@mel.paulcarlwebdev.com.  I look forward to hearing from you.  Have an INCREDIBLE week and know that you are loved!

Hello Monday’s ~ I’m on vacation!

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Yes, I know it’s Saturday but it’s true, in about 12 hours I’m heading to some much needed fun in the sun! Sometimes we just need to get away, clear our minds and re-focus right?! I’ve been dealing with random  “viruses” over the past two months off and on. I’m feeling so much better and really looking forward to this trip with some of my favorite people on this planet.  There is nothing better than spending time with the ones we love is there?

ENCOURAGEMENT

I don’t know about you but there is such a great anticipation and excitement that comes when you have a big event coming up! If you are like me you get so excited you can’t sleep. You make all these plans and that builds the upcoming event into a frenzy! I LOVE it! It’s all an incredible adventure.

Now, I know for some people this causes stress and they can’t handle it. They hate everything about planning events i.e.: vacations, parties, weddings, holidays. That’s ok it’s not your thing don’t beat yourself up over it. You are amazing at so many other things, no one is going to hold this against you. If they do, that’s their issue. You do what you do best!

Some people are great at planning but not as good at executing the plan. Others are awesome at both! Regardless stress can be involved in planning, preparing and the final result.

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10 Amazing Things About You (YES,YOU!)

  1. Be happy with who you are.
  2. You are radiant!
  3. Remember to be someone’s sunshine today.
  4. Your smile makes me happy!
  5. Laugh with me or at me I don’t mind 😀.
  6. Love with all that you are.
  7. Who can you inspire today?
  8. Incredible things are in your future!
  9. You are remarkable.
  10. Let someone know they matter!

LOVE

I will be the first to admit that when I get stressed I’m not a nice person. I’m not proud of it but sadly, it’s true.  I am being very transparent and honest because hopefully you can learn from my story.

Sometimes I don’t realize I’m stressed until my poor husband says “Shelly, you are being mean” then I have to stop and think.  I don’t want to be thought of that way ever especially to my family.  I absolutely love them beyond measure.

At that point I have a choice, I can continue being mean and stressed or I can stop and apologize for my behavior and change it. All of this is hard because it’s a pride issue!  I hate to be wrong and to admit it. I’m just being real here.  I would rather just blame it on something or someone else but the truth is I just can’t do it. I want to be done with it and to get rid of the stress so it might take awhile but I will apologize.

The interesting thing about stress is that it can do such damage to us physically, mentally and spiritually.  Many times we don’t even realize it unless we pay attention or the people around us love us enough to tell us. Stress can kill us from the inside out.

We need to learn how to de-stress.  Some people watch tv, exercise, meditate, listen to music, color or have various hobbies.  Make the time for you to do whatever you need to so you are living as stress free as possible. You are worth the investment.

I know you’re busy, who isn’t? Think of it this way, what if you don’t take that 15-60 minutes for yourself everyday to unwind and something happens to you? Maybe you get a bad report from the doctor, there are so many stress related illnesses. Don’t go another moment without knowing how valuable and loved you are! You are needed to fulfill your purpose here without being dragged down by stress.

I think after I get home from this vacation I will take that hour as a mini-vacation everyday. Not that I want to go back to the “stress” of the day, that would defeat the purpose wouldn’t it? I’m thinking more like to keep the relaxed frame of mind you have when you’re on vacation.

I hope you have an incredible week! I’ll share pictures on Facebook while I’m away and try not to rub it in because that would be mean. Take care of yourself and always know that you are loved 💗. Please leave a comment and share with your loved ones. Let me know if you relate to this topic at all! All my best

~ Shelly

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Hello Monday’s ~ More than a Feeling

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Hello Monday’s ~ More than a Feeling

 

Yes, I know, it’s the title of a classic song by the band Boston from the mid-1970’s.  Just because I know that, it doesn’t make me old but I digress.

ENCOURAGEMENT

Sometimes in life we get swept away by our emotions:  happy, sad, fear, love, anger, hate, depression, the list goes on.  I think you understand what I’m saying here.

We’ve all been led by our emotions/feelings at one point or another haven’t we?  I know I have, I’ll admit it.  Maybe we have regrets by being “driven” by some of those emotions.  Especially if we were angry and hurt someone else or even ourselves because of it.  I know it’s hard but we have to forgive ourselves and move forward.  IF you’ve hurt someone and you know it, be the bigger man or woman and apologize, ask them to forgive you.  You’ll both feel better for it.

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“You may not always end up where you thought you were going.  But you will always end up where you are meant to be.”  ~ Unknown

 

10 THINGS ABOUT YOU (YES, YOU)

  1. No one ever went blind looking on the bright side!
  2. Stay STRONG
  3. Don’t look behind you, you’re not going that way.
  4. Positive attitudes create positive thoughts!
  5. The trials that you face today give you the confidence for whatever comes in the future.
  6. In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.
  7. Create a life that you don’t need a vacation from!
  8. Stars can’t shine without darkness.
  9. The best investment you will ever make is in YOURSELF!
  10. Everyday is a chance to change your life.

 

LOVE

I don’t think any of us sit around wishing that we could spend more time feeling angry, sad, depressed or any negative feeling we can come up with.  Better yet to hold on to it until we die right?  So, let those feelings of (insert negative feeling here) flow away.  At the end of each day; let it go.  Yes, that’s easy for you to say Shelly.  Well, no it’s not but it’s a choice I make each day to let the negative things go so I can start the next day NEW and with a clean slate.  Besides, its exhausting carrying around all that garbage that doesn’t do anything for me!

I’m not sure who said it but it applies here “Keeping hold of anger (negative emotion/feelings) is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  In a nutshell, holding onto negativity hurts us.

Now you’re probably thinking WOW Shelly this is too heavy, pretty much a downer post.  Sort of yes but we’re not quite finished.  Here’s something I’d like you to try.  Tell yourself 3 things that you LOVE about yourself every night before you go to bed.  Now what you might not realize is you have subconsciously started your mind focusing on the awesome, amazing, incredible, brilliance of how remarkable YOU are!

You can double your “love and encouragement” benefits by doing this for yourself each night before bed.  Make it part of your night-time routine.  You are so important and matter to so many people.  Even people you might not realize that you matter to.

I hope you realize how much you are loved!  Thank you for being a part of my life even if I don’t know you personally.  I hope this blog reminds you to love yourself and those around you!

Please feel free to contact us, comment, share with your friends and family because we all need love and encouragement!

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Hello Monday’s ~ Not Good Enough

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Not Good Enough

When you compare yourself with those around you, do you feel like you’re not good enough, that you somehow don’t measure up, and there’s no way you ever could? Well guess what?!  STOP IT! You are unique. You can’t compare yourself to others, because you’re not them. They are not you.

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You are who you are meant to be. You were created and made to be just the way you are.  You might say, “But I can’t do this, and I don’t like this about myself, I hate my hair or my body or whatever it is that you hate about yourself.” Again, the inner most being of who you are and what makes you, YOU, is more than enough.

I don’t mean to disregard how you feel, because your feelings are very important. But I’m going to remind you that YOU are more than enough. There will never be a more amazing you. Don’t let the negative and nasty drag you down, rise up, stand straight, and look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH.”

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“Everyone has inside them a piece of good news. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is.”  ~ Anne Frank

10 AMAZING TRUTHS ABOUT YOU (YES, YOU!)

  1. If you’ll take a risk, you can chase your dreams.
  2. Change your attitude ~ what can stop you now?
  3. Never regret what makes you stronger.
  4. Know your worth ~ it’s priceless!
  5. It doesn’t matter how many say it can’t be done if you BELIEVE it CAN.
  6. The best way to get rid of negativity; laugh at it!
  7. Your ideas are worth something ~ so share them with others.
  8. Your kindness will spark change around you.
  9. You can’t please everyone so don’t try.
  10. The only really true failure in life is not to do your best.

LOVE

We all know the catch phrase, “I love you to the moon and back.” Well, being the literal person that I am I did a little research. Did you know that it’s 238, 855 miles to the moon from Earth? It would take you 3 days to get to the moon. So, in theory when using that phrase, you would have to say it every six days, right?! (I know I’m weird, I’m OK with it.  These are the things I think about sometimes)

The words that we use have power and meaning. Saying, “I love you”, and putting that into action takes effort on our part. It’s easy to love the loveable. Not so much when someone is yelling, screaming or calling us names.  In my opinion, it’s the not so lovable ones that need our love the most. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of yelling back and defending ourselves.  I wonder what would happen if we chose to love regardless of how we are “treated”.

I am a strong-willed woman.  I am very competitive and I hate to lose. And I like to always have the LAST WORD.  I struggle with loving difficult people and I’m not proud of it, but I do.  We all have these people in our lives.  Whether we work with them or live with them; whether they are good friends or family.  Maybe they are people we’ve known for a long time or maybe we just met them.

So, how do we deal with this?  For me, sometimes, love is silent.  When I want to speak (really, shout back and be just as nasty back) I choose to say nothing.  Sometimes, the people who are around us that are “un-loveable” could be going through something awful and just can’t control themselves.  They could be having a really bad day that just turns into a week, a month or longer.

Be patient, even if you’re not feeling love for them.  We are surrounded by the people that we are supposed to be around for a reason.  Share the love that you have with all of them.  The love you give will change the atmosphere whatever you do!

Hi, it’s Shelly!  Did you find this week’s “Hello Monday’s” interesting?  Please leave a comment about your favorite part.  Feel free to contact us with ideas and comments!  See you next Monday.

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