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Hello Monday’s ~ Be Bold and Courageous!

I was sitting in Panera writing and there was this cute older couple to my right in the corner.  When I say older I’m almost 54 so they are my elders.  I’m not saying they are old, just want to clarify.  The man was talking rather loudly and he was animated, using his hands gesturing and really intent.  The woman reached across the table took his hands and said, “Let’s be BOLD and COURAGEOUS!”  He laughed and almost shouted, “Let’s DO IT!”

YES! I thought to myself and ME TOO!  Of course I had no idea what they were talking about.  I just got caught up in their conversation from across the room.  They drew me in with the words bold, courageous and let’s do it!  I couldn’t help but agree.

I get excited when I hear people excited about something.  I didn’t have a clue what they were excited about it could have been light fixtures for all I know.  Their excitement was contageous and I was IN no matter what it was.

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Have you ever been drawn into someone else’s excitement?  Did it ignite a fire in you?  Did it spur you into action?  YES, for me on all counts.

These sweet folks at Panera had no idea that they encouraged me just be being in the same place at the same time.  They gained my attention and curiosity which lead to my excitement.

When they left the gentleman stood up, she waited, he pulled out her chair and helped her put her coat on.  He put her hand in the crook of his arm and she winked at me as they walked out.

They had absolutely charmed me.  I wanted to follow them and tell them but I didn’t.  I wasn’t afraid I just didn’t want to break the moment.  I watched them walk to their car.  He opened her door and waited for her to get settled inside.  He shut the door, walked around to the driver’s side and drove away.  It was a magical and romantic moment.  I was so encouraged by it.

My wonderful husband John does these beautiful gestures for me and I love it.  It reminds me that I’m loved, treasured and cherised.  It’s him putting his love for me into action.  Isn’t that what love is?  Not just saying “I love you” but putting it into action so you know you are loved.

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10 THINGS TO ENCOURAGE YOU (YES, YOU!)

  1.  YOU make this world a better place.
  2.  You can be happy!
  3.  There’s no one else who could ever take your place.
  4.  The word “can’t” doesn’t exist in your vocabulary!
  5.  When you think you are at your wits end, take a breath it will be OK.
  6.  You are BRILLIANT!
  7.  What would I do without YOU?
  8.  You are never alone.
  9.  You were born to be GREAT.  It’s a process and it takes time. You will get there.
  10.  Always remember, you are a super star!

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I thouroughly loved those precious minutes at Panera.  Whenever I think of them now I will remember the words: bold, courageous and let’s do it.  When I hear those words I will think of them and their devotion to each other.  I will also remember that wink like we were sharing a special secret.

Their excitement was contagious but what really drew me to them in the first place was their absolute adoration for each other.  I had no doubt that they were a unit and they were still very much in love. I know I made a lot of assumptions but this is my story so I’m going with them being 75ish, married over 50 plus years and still crazy for each other.

John and I have been married for thirty-one years and I hope we can spark excitement in others when we are older.  To give the younger generation something to write and talk about.  To be an example of a life long love.  A legacy to our children, grandchildren and greatgrandchildren.  I want them to say that we loved whole heartedly.  That we were devoted to each other.

I know I’m “old-fashioned.”  My mother used to call me an old soul, that I should have been born in an earlier time.  The problem with that is I would have to give up indoor plumbing and modern technology.  I appreciate and am grateful for all that I have in this century.

I believe there are several things we can take from this special moment:

  • Be BOLD and COURAGEOUS – be brave to take risks at any age
  • Let’s do it! – Go for it what’s the worse that could happen?
  • Always love, treasure and cherish all the people that matter most to you.  Don’t let an opportunity go by that you don’t tell them how wonderful they are and what they mean to you.

I know this, I was sitting by myself in Panera and these two sweet people inspired me and had no idea that they had done it.  I am thankful for the chance encounter and to have witnessed such unconditional love in action.

I hope you found this blog post touching, exciting and encouraging.  I appreciate you and your comments.  Let me know what you think!  I wish you all the best and look forward to hearing from you.  Have an amazing day and always know you are loved. Take Care, Shelly

Hello Monday’s ~ Resolutions, Dreams or Goals

Resolutions, Dreams or Goals

happy-new-year-2013_mkmpzhdo_lI wonder if you’re like me or should I say like I used to be up to this year.  Maybe you set up resolutions and didn’t achieve them or gave up a month or two into the new year.  I’m waving both hands here because that’s what I would do too.  My excuses would be I’ll start again when I have more time, it’s just too much for me I can’t do it.  I had all the excuses in the book or I’d just quit because I lost interest.

When I’d make my “resolution” for the new year I would make them as mental notes.  I think that was mistake number 1!  Then I would get easily distracted and it was easy to lose track of it in my head.  Also, everyday life could delay and distract me from what I had resolved to do.

As 2016 was coming to an end, I decided I’m not going to make resolutions anymore especially as a “mental note.” I took time to really sit down and think about my dreams (not when asleep) and how could they become realities.  This year I’m setting down in writing my GOALS!  I think by writing them down and putting them in plain sight and purposeful places, I believe reaching these goals will not only be achievable they will be accomplished.

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img_3287Do you start every year with resolutions or ideas of things you want to accomplish during the course of the year?  I would really love to hear if you are like me and have missed the mark or you complete all your resolutions.

In December, I decided that I want things to be different in my life.  I feel I’m fairly organized, optimistic and capable of doing anything I set my mind to.  The fact of the matter is my life is so “busy”(just like everyone else) that there’s too much on my mind that I can’t remember what I’m supposed to do.

If you want things to change then you have to be willing to do something different.  I’ve decided 2017 is my year!  This year I want to DREAM BIG, set and achieve goals to make those dreams come true.  I wrote down personal and business goals and I’m going to break them down into 90 day tasks to make them happen.  Yes, I know it sounds doable but my dreams are huge and pretty much scary.  At this point the scarier the better because on December 31, 2017 I want to have quite a few goals surpassed not just reached.

I feel more confident that this is my time to make the change and not fall into the traps of my past.  I’ve shut the door and I’m not looking back.  I want to encourage you to GO FOR IT!  Write down your dreams, make sure they’re a little scary and break down the steps you need to take to achieve it within 90 days.  Then go for the next one.  By the end of the year you will have accomplished at the very least 4 things that you wanted to see achieved.  I dont’ know about you but that’s EXCITING!

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10 Things to ENCOURAGE YOU (YES, YOU!)

  1. Let go of what you cannot change.
  2. Only you can make you HAPPY!
  3. Breathe in strength and release your fears.
  4. If you believe you can, then you will.
  5. Choose to be UNSTOPPABLE!
  6. SHINE today.
  7. I love how persistant YOU are.
  8. You ARE good enough.
  9. Take a minute to stop and look around you, YOU can make a difference.
  10. Your life is meant to be LIVED!

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I want you to know that it’s out of love that I spend time encouraging and building up others.  I want to help with the things that I’m going through and what I’ve broken through.  I’ve really struggled with resolutions in the past and I’ve felt less of myself because I didn’t finish.  There is hope for us all!

I know goal-setting can be a really scary step to take.  I kept asking myself will I fail?  Possibly, but at least I’m going to go for it. Bottom line is these are your dreams that you want to see happen!  What are you willing to do for it to come true?  Step by step goals that are broken down into smaller steps will help you to see that you are taking ground and moving forward.  This will make you more confident as you mark off each step. Yes, you might not reach your goals within 90 days, so WHAT?! Keep going, don’t give up just break your steps to smaller tasks until you reach them.

I’m so excited to see what 2017 will bring!  Just writing this blog is one step to mark off my list, then posting it will be another.  If you’ve ever seen the movie “What About Bob” then what we’re doing is taking “baby steps” and with each step we take we will move forward.  Every step that is marked off will bring hope and fill us with a sense of accomplishment.  I believe it is true so I will keep going from step to step until my dream is REAL.

Ralph Waldo Emerson has some really amazing quotes but there are two that are driving my greatness forward right now.

  • “Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm”
  • “Always do what you are afraid to do”

There are so many of his quotes that I could choose but these are the two that I am putting everywhere in my office here and at work.  On my bathroom mirror and in my car.  I am also putting my dreams/goals list in all of these places so I can mark off when I complete each task.

I hope you find this blog post helpful and useful.  I really would like to hear how you set up your resolutions, dreams or goals for this year.  Even though they might be scary that’s good according to the amazing Ralph Waldo Emerson.  Happy New Year!

I’m Shelly and I love helping those I come in contact with.  Please leave comments and share this post with those that you know and might find it helpful.  I really appreciate feedback.  Have an INCREDIBLE day and may the New Year bring you new beginnings that EXCITE you.

Hello Monday’s ~ Are you Happy with who You Are?

I Enjoying lifejust asked myself this question.  Am I happy with who I am? My answer, is a resounding YES!  Looking deep within myself, I am content with where I am at this time in my life.  Of course, there are always things that could be different or better I guess.  I’m not focused on them, I’m focused on where I’m at right now, at this point and I’m at peace and am loving my life.

I know it’s a profound question to ask yourself.  The hardest part I think is to give an honest answer.  Yes, I tend to be the glass is always “half-full” person.  I don’t focus on the negatives this life throws at me.  Instead, I get my bat out, step up to the plate and swing away!  I might “strike out” or I might just get a “home-run!”  I’ll never know unless I go for it RIGHT?!

We live in a world where there is a lot going on.  There’s senseless killings, floods, famine, hurricanes and drought….basically a lot of sadness and turmoil.  You open a newspaper or turn on the news and there’s a whole lot of negative if that’s all you want to see.  I DON’T!

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So, I said it.  I don’t want to see all the negative.  I do see it, it’s all around us.  You would have to be oblivious not to see it.  However, I also see the drive to survive.  I’ve watched men and women willing to sacrifice themselves to HELP one another.  I’ve seen them pool together in the darkest of times.  They use their resources and become knitted together in the only way you can when tragedy strikes. I don’t know about you but I think it’s the most beautiful thing about the human heart. Also the will and strength to fight and NOT GIVE UP!!

I’ve also seen when terrible things happen, men and women are filled with the determination to be courageous and brave.  It opens us up to be more than we thought we were capable of.  Not only can you be happy with who you are,  you can change how you see yourself and those around you!

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“Success isn’t fame, fortune or power.  It’s waking up in the morning and being so excited to start the day.  Success is joy, freedom and LOVE!” ~ Shelly Whyland

10 ENCOURAGING THOUGHTS FOR YOU (YES, YOU!)

  1. Define yourself by YOUR terms.
  2. It’s ok to LOVE yourself.
  3. Smile, it’s contagious, pass it on.
  4. Our power to accomplish anything comes from within.  All you need to do is tap into it!
  5. Accept who you are.  I think you are magnificent.
  6. Believe – all things are possible!
  7. Who defines what you will do with your life?  YOU DO!
  8. GET UP…..GO……BE YOURSELF.
  9. Don’t be afraid to SUCCEED!
  10. Your dreams are yours.  Don’t let them go or let anyone take them from you.

I sit here and think about how to inspire, encourage and love people.  Just take a few minutes and think about who you are.  You truly are amazing not just because I say you are but because YOU ARE.  Sometimes we believe the lies that people tell us that we are.  Don’t do it!  You are here for a reason.  And that reason can only be done by you!  This is the truth, maybe you are thinking NOT ME and I am saying YES, YOU!

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Success isn’t fame, fortune or power.  It might be for some people but me.  For me, success is waking up in the morning being so excited to start the day!  Success is joy, freedom, love and who or how can I share it with the people I come in contact with TODAY?

I know there are deep hurts and sadness in people.  I’m not belittling anyone’s feelings.  I hope if you sat down for a few minutes you could find something within yourself that you are happy with.

So, let’s go back to the beginning of this post. Now, ask yourself…….are you happy with who you are?  Go ahead take some time and dig deep and give an honest answer to yourself.Shelly

Hi it’s me Shelly, I would love to hear the answer.  If the answer is a YES or NO, I’d like to know why you feel that way.  Please let me if this post encouraged you.  Did you take the time to think about it?  Please feel free to contact me at shelly@mel.paulcarlwebdev.com.  I really would like to know what you think. Did you find this post worthwhile?  Feel free to leave a comment.  Like it and Share it with your friends.  I’m always looking for positive quotes to share in the Hello Monday’s blog.  Have a beautiful week and know that I’m thinking of you!  Be AWESOME.

Hello Monday’s

 

Good Morning!

I’ve decided to kick-start a weekly blog post telling YOU how AWESOME you are!  Each Monday I will do a “Hello Mondays” post.  These posts will be filled with encouragement, a positive quote for the week, 10 amazing truths about you that maybe you’ve forgotten, and lastly LOVE.

 

This will definitely be a different post then the wedding posts that go up other days in the week.  Mondays will be for everyone.  Anyone who needs to be reminded that you MATTER, you have VALUE and you are LOVED!

 

ENCOURAGEMENT

During the 1st week of October 2014 I had heard about a lot of people who were struggling and bummed out.  My friends were really having a hard time.  People on Facebook seemed down and I decided I couldn’t just sit around and do nothing, so I decided to do a 30-Day Love and Encouragement Challenge.

 

I remember being told that for every one negative thing that is said to us it takes 10 positive things to erase it.  I posted 10 sentences over 30 days to remove 30 negative things from all my FB friends’ lives. 

 

I want to take the time to encourage you on Mondays so you can rock your week!  Hopefully, if you know this blog is here you’ll come read it, be encouraged, get some love and pass it on to others around you.  Let’s say you or someone you know is having a bad day, (come on, we all have them, yes, even me, Beam, my nickname from a dear friend at work!) you will know this is here and you can come get uplifted. 

 

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“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.  Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become GREAT.”

~ Mark Twain

 

10 AMAZING TRUTHS ABOUT YOU (YES, YOU!)

  1. You are capable of doing anything!
  2. There is no obstacle that you can’t overcome.
  3. Take a moment to really look at the beauty around you (including yourself) it’s there if you look for it.
  4. You are more than you think you are!
  5. Your value cannot be measured by what you do, it’s measured by those who can’t live without you.
  6. Be yourself – – – you’re spectacular!
  7. No one has the power to rob you of your JOY unless you give it to them.
  8. You are unique – there is no one else like YOU.
  9. Make time for yourself: read a book, take a bath, dance, sing, do whatever makes you happy for YOU.  I triple dog dare ya.
  10. No one is perfect – – it’s OK to make mistakes.  That’s what erasers and white out are for!

 

I don’t know about you, but sometimes we get so busy in our lives that we forget in all the craziness who we are.  Take a minute to really look at how incredible YOU are.  I know, they are 10 sentences that a person wrote on a page.  That doesn’t make them not the TRUTH.

 

LOVE

One of the simple definitions of love by Merriam-Webster dictionary says this:

love:  a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person

Love can encompass all the relationships in our lives.  Family, friends, co-workers, you know who the people are in your life that you love. Some of us have such close friends that we consider them family.    

Love requires action and words.  Take a few minutes throughout this week and put your love into action.  Send someone you love a quick note, text, email or give them a call.  Spend a little time and effort in your busy schedule to tell them how much you love them.  In my experience when you give love away, you get so much more than you gave.

Love is an incredible gift.  Sometimes we forget that and we take it for granted.  When you’re thankful for the love in your life take a few precious minutes to let the people around you know.  It doesn’t have to be a HUGE grand gesture, make it simple.  A post it note on the mirror for your wife, a text to your kids or husband, a call to your parents or friend.  You never know, you just might make someone’s day!

 

Hi Everyone, it’s me Shelly, I hope you feel the love and encouragement and will look forward to coming back for this blog each week.  My goal for you today and the rest of the week is to know that you are valuable to those around you.  Each day we have the opportunity to bring about change in our surroundings.  Maybe it starts with just a smile from YOU.  Have an awesome week —– see you next Monday!

 

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